Wins & Losses

We all know that death is a part of this life journey, and everyone grieves differently. I’m learning to send them off with love, remembering the good times to make me smile because I can easily fall in a rabbit hole of depression if I start to question why it happened, etc. The last time I’d lost people in my life were Mally, AJ, & Nikki within 2 years. Each affected my differently but taught me a lot more about life.

Within the past month, I’ve lost 3 lives that I had a completely different relationship with. Quita, Diesel & Grandmama.

In early December, I was on Instagram and I was completely shocked to find out a woman I’ve followed for the past 2 years passed away. Quita was a mother, wife, teacher, athlete, and overall great person. I’m grateful to have been myself along this journey of life, and send her love on IG and I greeted her with a big hug when I saw her in person in June. Two years ago she, and 4 other women ran from Harlem to Washington D.C. to raise money for for women’s reproductive rights- For All Women . Seeing a bald Afro Latina running was the exact motivation I needed at the time to get active again, and still motivates me to push myself beyond any limit I put on myself. She didn’t wake up from her sleep one day and it really got me to celebrate life more. From that day on, I made the mindful decision to be grateful to see another day. 

In late December, my best friends dog passed away from lung cancer. Although I knew he was sick and wasn’t getting better, I never cried about it-until he died. I wanted to stay strong for him, and my best friends. I’m grateful for the time we spent together, and to have met an amazing dog like Diesel. He reminded me  to make people smile just by being myself.

The first week of January, my sister in law’s grandmother passed away. She is no longer in pain and that’s what makes me smile; She’s also reunited with her husband and her granddaughter. She made me laugh so hard one of the last times I saw her. I wouldn’t have the blessing of a niece or nephew if it wasn’t for her life. She reminds me to enjoy my youth, don’t stress about everything. 

Death truly inspires me to live my life. 

When all is said & done, did you live in your purpose? 
Are people impacted by your life & legacy? 
Did you live the life you were created to live? 

Give people their flowers while they can smell them. 

You can always be nice to people & celebrate them. Whether it’s someone you see on social media, or in person- if you like their outfit, tell them. Are you inspired by someone? Let them know. Tell your best friend, family you love them. Hug them a little harder, and spend time with the people that help make you a better person. 
Give yourself more love. Buy yourself flowers, take yourself on a date, practice self care.


Reap Your Harvest.

I have done a lot of work to get to where I am, and so have you. Clap for yourself.

Now, get back in your lane and live your best life. With 2019 starting off great despite these losses, there’s so many opportunities to make this year your best year. Are you believing in your dreams? Are you working towards the life you desire? How are you preparing yourself for your blessings? 

Matthew 17:20
He replied, "Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."

What are some lessons life has taught you?
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