Preparing for landing, I stare out of the window a little longer. It amazes me that that’s what cities look like from this perspective.
“I just need you to put your seat up, sir”
I know she’s not talking to me,
1. I’m not a man.
2. I never moved my seat during the flight.
I need you to move your seat up.
Usually when I get called the wrong gender, I look down to see what I’m wearing that may have caused the confusion. This isn’t the first time & it probably won’t be the last. When I’m in a public restroom women look back at the sign to see that they chose the right one. They think I don’t see them staring at me.
I choose not to wear a bra these days because it’s so much more comfortable. But my 36 DD boobs are still there. I don’t wear mens shirts in public as much these days either.
Does wearing a hat make me less feminine?
So, when I’m on my period & I’m wearing a hat, what does that make me?
I usually wear leggings because they’re so comfortable... you can’t hide my hips behind anything & I love my figure for that... is that not woman enough?
I know everyone will judge each other for something, my ethnicity, gender, choice of clothes, etc. It’s part of who we are. I judge people for things I don’t do... like calling someone the wrong gender.
I don’t get it. Sometimes I want to pull them to the side & ask them, do I really look like a man? But I really don’t want to hear their ignorant response. That’s why I keep it moving- and because I know my truth.
Anytime I share with friends what I experience they wonder why I’m still calm & haven’t gone off. Trust me, the immature me definitely would’ve said something. But at the end of the day, this is how God created me. I find balance in wearing athleisure with beating my face with makeup. I can wear a men’s shirt & get my period. I still have to jump to get my skinny jeans over my hips, people compliment my big butt, & just because I don’t reveal my big boobs... they’re there. My hair length doesn’t make me any less of a woman, either. On a deeper level, I’m more than my gender & that keeps my head high too. My sexual orientation is a whole other taboo for irrelevant people, because of the way I dress? Truth is, I don’t have to conform to anyone’s idea of a woman. I don’t have to make anyone else comfortable.
This is why I make sure I’m comfortable in my skin & what I’m wearing before I leave my house. I have to have a solid understanding of who I am before the world tries to tell my otherwise. When my style changes over the years it’ll be because I chose that, not other people/ trends. I will always be a cozy girl- comfortable with who I am and how I was created to be.